In our last blog, we talked about resistance.
Let’s talk a few more characteristics of resistance and how we can overcome them.
How many times have you decided to do something and never got around to it?
Last week I decided to send an email to 10 content creators, never did that.
Last week we wanted to finalize the hiring of our Marketing person, never did that.
Last week I decided I will meditate for at least 15 mins a day, never did that.
Overcoming Resistance is not a one-time thing
Resistance is not something that you’ll overcome once and you can assume it has been conquered forever. This sucker is an everyday struggle. The good news though is this is like a glacier, it melts and it starts melting everyday.
Resistance is impersonal
Resistance is fair to everyone, it is not out there to get you personally. It’s a human thing. Maybe it’s a natural thing.
To keep you in your status quo to ensure you don’t move out of your comfort zone. It originally developed in ancient human beings when doing anything different from the ordinary means inviting trouble, evolution wanted to find a way to keep us safe inside a comfort zone and that’s how resistance became a ‘thing’ in all of us.
If it’s of any consolation, Roger Federer encounters resistance, Steven Spielberg to Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg to Mark Wahlberg, Walt Disney to Walter Isaac Newton – all of them encountered resistance. The difference between them and many millions of others is the way they dealt with it, if you are encountering Resistance – be happy, it proves you are human!
So, what are some ways we can tame resistance?
It takes small actions
The biggest problem with resistance is – ‘Getting started’. Once we get things going, the resistance slowly starts melting.
For e.g. How many of us have thought about doing a certification program and have not done anything about it for several months.
Some of the people who participated in our workshops shared their stories about not getting their certification stated for over 18 months.. think about it, 18 months is almost 2% of your lifetime!!!
And after they start our workshop, they end up completing the very same certification within the next 3 months! Their reaction after they complete is almost always the same – ‘I don’t know why I waited so long?’
What changed? There was one thing that changed, they took a small action – They ‘started’.
The first thing we propose when someone comes with this is – Book a date for your exam, Start telling people you are going to do this by a certain date.. It’s all about the small action. It’ always the first step that is the hardest.
It’s not easy to overcome resistance all alone
Hundreds of research experiments have proven that since our evolution is deeply rooted in the fact that we always lived as communities as hunter-gatherers, our brain is structured to respond better and face little resistance when we do things as a community.
That is exactly the reason why – if you want to go to a gym you will go for 3 days if you go alone, but if you go as a group or play a game as a group – it stays longer within you – the resistance is overcome together as a group.
We borrow the power of resistance being overcome by one member in a group and use that across the board. It’s just magic.
In the last and final part of our blog series, we take a close look at ‘What are the next steps to gain clarity on your career move?’
If you have missed our earlier blogs in the series, check them out below
First post of the series -> The #1 reason 7 out of 10 tech professionals fail in their careers
Second post of the series -> Should I stay with my company or Should I leave? How would I know?
Third post of the series -> ‘I loved my job before, I don’t anymore – So what really changed?’
Fourth post of the series -> Your career is doomed if you don’t understand this about yourself…